Fall out of love

"Unless you both know deep in your heart of hearts that this love ain't no real thing, you may want to read on to learn about what's really going on before you jump to the wrong conclusion.
Sometimes falling out of love just isn't what it seems to be to either party.When two people who were in love fall out of love, they are usually in need of an injection of "vitamin S": self-love. When we are low on self-love, we begin expecting too much from our partners. No matter what our partner says or does, it will not be enough. We feel our partner is not responding the way they used to. We begin to compare what we are getting now with what we got in the past. We start to make lists of all the things our partner is not doing for us. We want our partner to make us happy again, but that's just not possible. With an attitude like this, things can only get worse

When you are missing self-love, your partner's devotion cannot make you feel better -- only you can do that. Thus, it is time to take time for us. By focusing on loving and supporting ourselves, we will gradually connect once again to our center. By taking time for ourselves to do what we want, we will begin to feel better again.
Blame keeps relationships from moving forward. If one partner feels empty or unhappy or unfulfilled in any area of his or her life, often that partner will blame his or her better half. The blame turns to resentment, and partners start questioning whether or not they should stay in the relationship. They long for fulfillment so badly that they begin to think that it is the relationship that is loveless, when in fact it is their own life that they do not love.
We have to take personal responsibility for our relationship and allow our hearts to remain open. Sometimes we confuse boredom with loss of love. Both partners need to change and grow over time. Emotional, mental and spiritual growth are all necessary to keep a relationship fresh.
Some people may feel that they are falling out of love simply because the romance is gone in a relationship. Well, here's the news, folks: Romance isn't automatic. We have to actively create opportunities for romance to thrive. A few simple, fun ideas include:

• Bring home fresh flowers -- often and "just because."
• Plan a date night once a week.
• Take a long weekend at a swank resort and leave the kids with grandma.
• Run your beloved a bubble bath, light candles, bring a glass of wine, sit on the edge of the tub and read poetry, or get the heck out and give him/her some alone time to re-center and re-energize.

Through your deep connection with your mate, you can reconnect to your true self. Remember to stoke the fires of love with healthy doses of forgiveness, trust, appreciation and understanding, and your relationship will be fulfilling for years to come.  by Dr. John Gray